Are you feeling overwhelmed...caught in the whirlwind of divorce? Unsure where to begin, who to turn to, or what your options are?
Are you feeling powerless facing a process you don't understand, afraid to move forward... not wanting to make a big mistake around finances, the children, or where to live?
There are so many decisions to make and so much to negotiate!
Your whole life is changing before your eyes. Your future is unknown and hard to see right now. There’s so much uncertainty and so much at stake.
It may feel endless, but, in fact, this is only a very small period in your life. You WILL get through this! You and your family will find a new normal and happiness again.
And there will be times when the decisions you face may feel like life or death, and that’s when the fight or flight response can take over. That just isn’t a good place to communicate from. You sure don’t want to make life-changing decisions from that highly reactive, fearful place.
No matter who initiated the divorce, the best and fastest way to get through this challenging time is to step out of the “story” and drama of the divorce so that you can get down to the business of divorce.
Staying in the drama and the story of what’s happened will keep you stuck in that fight or flight mode. You’ll end up being triggered and reacting, staying stuck in the negative communication patterns that helped lead to the downward spiral of the relationship in the first place.
When you stay stuck in the “story” of your divorce, it keeps you embroiled in all the negative emotions … anger, blame, shame, guilt, confusion, resentment, or a sense of failure. It’s completely understandable and normal to feel these things. It’s important to acknowledge and work through everything you’re feeling. You just can’t stay stuck there.
It’s important to get through the divorce as amicably as possible. Why? Because what hurts children most is not the divorce itself but rather the conflict around the divorce. And that’s true even when the kids are older!
How you and your soon-to-be ex communicate with each other and the children during the divorce has a huge impact on your children’s mental health, how well they adjust, and how well you’ll be able to co-parent moving forward.
As a Certified Divorce Coach, my job is to help you bypass any knee-jerk reactions you may have, so you can make clear-minded decisions, and learn to communicate in effective, positive ways that’ll be better for your children … and lead to better outcomes for you as well!
Conflict will most certainly come up, and you can learn to stand confidently in the face of the storm. I’ll help you get clear on your needs, so you can communicate those needs in a way your spouse can hear. You can’t change your spouse, but you can learn to communicate in a way that will help them hear you rather than automatically throw up that wall of defense.
You don’t need to go through this alone. As your Divorce Coach, I’m your sounding board and thinking partner. I’ll always have your best interests at heart.
Here are some of the biggest benefits you’ll get from working with me. I’ll help you to:
Understand what your options are and provide additional resources, so you can navigate your divorce as cleanly and gracefully as possible.
Work through a new budget, so you’re clear on what you’ll need financially going forward.
Set up a workable parenting plan that your partner could buy into more easily.
Organize your thoughts, so you’re better able to present what you need and want in a way that can be heard by your spouse and your attorney or mediator.
Save money by being better prepared for meetings with your highly-paid attorney, mediator, or financial analyst. Their time is your money!
Avoid the six biggest mistakes typically made in divorce!
My job is to guide you through all the aspects of divorce with clarity and confidence! So, when you look back, you’re proud of how you went through your divorce with courage and grace as a role model for your children.
Here’s the bottom line… How you go through your divorce determines how you’ll recover. The easier the divorce, the faster and easier the recovery.
I invite you to schedule a complimentary, no-obligation discovery session to see how I can help you!